Love Vs. Infatuation

Subject: Love Vs. Infatuation Sun May 31, 2009 4:57 am

Love vs Infatuation
What, then, is the elusive thing called “Love” that everyone so desperately needs?
Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome?
But this kind of “Cinderella Syndrome” when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love. It is
better known as “Infatuation”, and there is a vast difference between it and real love. Enumerated here
below are the differences. Find out if you are really in love and not just infatuated.

Infatuation
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion.
Real love though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the
Emotions and the Will are involved.
Next, a person “fall into” infatuation, but “grows into” real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a
girl who was so beautiful that you thought you’d faint? This is infatuation. It is based totally on physical
attraction; Often you don’t know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus infatuation is
mostly biological.
Also remember, never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then,
infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying
yourself and your “feelings” than it is in the other person.
Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly
seeks the highest good for the other person.
Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and
separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain
in separation if you are truly in love.

Love
Now you understand what is infatuation, let us now go on to discuss about Love.

1. Love is Patient
The word translated “patient” means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations.
When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of her shell, if you truly
love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view
– maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it
with patience and understanding.
Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship
and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, Love is willing to give the relationship
time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at
a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.

2. Love is Kind
Love seeks to encourage and build up on others. It respects the feelings and emotions
of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, i.e. Compliment one another,
magnify the other’s strength, Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to
say and make each other feel that what each says is important, etc.

3. Love is not Jealous
Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others,
but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, “If he is going to talk to her,
then he can just forget about me!” Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to
restrict her relationships with others.

4. Love is not to Brag
Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying
to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt
himself. Others will exalt him.

5. Love is not Arrogant
Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love, instead, is humble and has a
servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an “I can take you or leave you”
attitude. His demeanor implies, “You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating
you”. Of course this is not love.

6. Love always Covers
This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with
faults of others. It doesn’t criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present
even when it knows the other is not perfect.

7. Love always Perseveres
Love always stands its ground and holds out. It will outlast anything. It will even love on
the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

8. Love is not Provoked
This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily
offended. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centered not selfcentered.
Love says, “I love you, I want to give you.” Selfishness says, “I love you, I want you!”

9. Love does not act Unbecomingly
This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, or indecently. It does
not embarrass others by its actions. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that
love should have good manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl or
offering her your arm when you walk together.

10.Love is Forgiving
Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget
when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn’t hold grudges when it
has been wronged. It doesn’t remain resentful.
Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins.

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Sun May 31, 2009 11:54 pm

Quote :: Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins.

--oo nga naman..
haayyy..

forgive and forget.

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:38 am

love at Infatuation diba parehas din?
kasi may pagkakaiba. haha. yan oh.!
nakalagay na Feeling lang na love
tapos yung isa love with commitment

diba?

pero ngayon alam ko na. seperation makes true love
strong. ibig sabihin. distance eh no mets nsa love.
diba seperation din yun? hoho
oha? na alala ko yung topic dati.! haha

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Mon Jun 01, 2009 5:03 am

FourStroke wrote:: love at Infatuation diba parehas din?
kasi may pagkakaiba. haha. yan oh.!
nakalagay na Feeling lang na love
tapos yung isa love with commitment

diba?

pero ngayon alam ko na. seperation makes true love
strong. ibig sabihin. distance eh no mets nsa love.
diba seperation din yun? hoho
oha? na alala ko yung topic dati.! haha

hohohoho maawa ka dude di ko naintindihan hahaha

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:45 am

jlynrd13 wrote:

FourStroke wrote:: love at Infatuation diba parehas din?
kasi may pagkakaiba. haha. yan oh.!
nakalagay na Feeling lang na love
tapos yung isa love with commitment

diba?

pero ngayon alam ko na. seperation makes true love
strong. ibig sabihin. distance eh no mets nsa love.
diba seperation din yun? hoho
oha? na alala ko yung topic dati.! haha

hohohoho maawa ka dude di ko naintindihan hahaha

nakikiramay ako JL.. ako rin hindi ko maintindihan..

--fourstoke.. di ka talga nagbabago.. haha.. separation hindi "seperation"

wahaha lol!

--naman.. ayun o.. COMMITMENT,, hmmm.. hindi ko ma-explika ng tama kasi hindi pa naman ako committed sa kahit kanino..
nyikez..
lol!

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Tue Jun 02, 2009 12:01 am

haha. di niyo magets?
wala kasing LOL sa huli eh
akala ko magegets niyo joke ko.
sensya na! What a Face

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Tue Jun 02, 2009 4:47 am

MELAY:

-- ako, i forgive pero
di fino-forget kung anu man ang nanyare
Like a Star @ heaven

-- sa totoo lang,
parang nakita ko yan sa
T.L.E. book nuong
sophomore palang ako.
LOL

nagulat nga ako eh.
connect pala ang INFATUATION at LOVE
sa subject na yun ! haha!
whatever ! What a Face

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Tue Jun 02, 2009 10:25 am

FourStroke wrote:: haha. di niyo magets?
wala kasing LOL sa huli eh
akala ko magegets niyo joke ko.
sensya na!

*ehem*...palusot kuno. LOL

Subject: Re: Love Vs. Infatuation Wed Jun 03, 2009 12:02 am

DIGS? pipe ^

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